may 14, 2026
Retirement and a Life in the Arts
By: Em Jaye
What are you going to do in retirement? This is a question that everyone will ask you when you announce that you are leaving a life of employment. I suppose that the most common answer is, “I don’t know.” How could most working people possibly think beyond what they need to do just to get through the day? There is always so much on the to-do list.
One of my retired friends got caught up on fixing things around the house, found himself bored and went back to work again within a year. Some of my friends have traveled a lot and posted Facebook and Instagram pictures from exotic locations. Most of the people that I know just find things to do to get through the day. I have days like that myself. Quiet, simple and easy. Others have had to retire due to health reasons. Their lives center around medical visits and trying to heal. I have kept busy by hosting an annual summer community garden and making maple syrup from my trees in the early spring. During the warmer months, my wife and I travel back and forth from the old family cabin in north Wisconsin. Life in the Northwoods is peaceful and full of summer-related fun.
My journey to retirement was not an easy one. I had to endure and overcome childhood trauma during an era of our history when mental health issues carried a stigma for your family. I worked many jobs to earn enough money to go to school. I studied the sciences and got a job out of school working for Abbott Laboratories, a large pharmaceutical company. The division that I worked in required us to put in 70 to 80-hour work weeks. The pace was brutal. I saw friends twitch out from the pressure. I lived on caffeine. I barely slept. Somehow, I found the mental space to fall in love, get married and have children. Within this framework, I raised two girls and survived daily life. Imagine going from this scenario straight into retirement. What a shock. It took my brain about 5 years to get out of panic mode. That’s when I found my calling: a life in the arts.
I have dabbled in the arts in the past. I tried to learn guitar and quit, twice. I studied dance in college and performed with the SIU modern dance company. In 1996, while my daughters were studying dance and music at Dancenter North in Libertyville, I began performing in their annual edition of the “Magic of the Nutcracker.” This year will be my 30th year in a row as a Nutcracker performer. October through December is officially Nutcracker season in our home with busy rehearsal and performance schedules. It is a time of great joy that uplifts the spirit. There are endless moments of magic and camaraderie while hanging out with my performance family. If only this joy could be found year-round. That’s when I started music lessons at the Adler Arts Center.
It took me decades to sign up for classes at Adler. Initially, I hesitated because of my schedule. I was too busy while working to consider it. What if my Nutcracker rehearsals interfered with classes? What about my spontaneous trips to Denver and Salt Lake City to visit my daughters and grandchildren? How could signing up for a three-month session make any sense? This year, however, I decided that I would embrace any class that I could make and just go for it. I registered for guitar lessons with Paul Compton and voice lessons with Jade J. Maze during session three. I couldn’t have made a better decision.
For the first time since college, I am immersed in a nurturing environment for personal growth. Both of my teachers are wonderful. Paul is easy-going and intuitive. He saw where I would get stuck and suggested new ways to hold the guitar and position my body so that I could press down on the strings more cleanly. His weekly assignments were just enough to challenge me without feeling overwhelming, and I appreciated the patience and encouragement he brought to each lesson.
The vocal lessons that I have had with Jade J. Maze have felt otherworldly. I love to sing and I have been the lead singer in an oldies rock band, “The Jivin’ Miltones.” I had no idea how to use my voice with the band, but I grunted through it and a chronically sore throat. Every class with Jade has been filled with fireworks of knowledge and joy. After three weeks of lessons, my vocals are clearer and stronger, and my range has improved all without trashing my throat! I’ve found myself practicing all day. And as the Carpenters’ song goes, “I’ve Only Just Begun.”
If you have ever had the desire to explore the arts at Adler Center, just do it. If you are working, schedule in the time to take a class and to practice your lessons. There are activities you can drop in order to make the time. Your newfound joy will light up you and those around you at work and at home. If you are retired, like me, studying the arts will awaken your soul and expand your mind. The last part of your personal journey can be filled with newfound wonder instead of slowly fading away. What an inspiring legacy to leave those around you! Working or retired, enrich yourself with the joy of personal growth. You will feel the beauty of just being you. You will find peace and meaning in a life in the arts.
Em Jaye (Michael Jay Kaplan) lives in Libertyville, Illinois, with his wife Carol, dog (Theo), feline master (Kai), and dwarf bunny (Blossom). Em likes to leave the world a more joyful place every day. All photos courtesy of Em Jaye.